Everyone has the power to enable positive change.

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Everyone has the power to enable positive change. Everyone benefits from kindness.

No one can know what anyone else is going through, what kind of day they have had, what troubles or joys are whirling through their mind. What we do know, is that everyone benefits from kindness.

There are always situations or people at work that bother us, but what if we put ourselves in their shoes – could we be more generous with our time, our patience, our kindness? TWBC challenge you to follow these 3 kindness steps on #randomactsofkindness day, to prove being generous to your colleagues can make a massive difference.

  1. Smile and be patient
  2. Put yourself in your colleagues shoes
  3. Do something nice for a colleague you may not always see eye to eye with

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TWBC’s values are an intrinsic element of everything we do, from our CEO to our consultants. We ensure these values and ethics are the golden thread of every piece of work we do with our clients. Together we can make a difference.

  • Every conversation counts
  • Everything is possible
  • Everything can be better
  • Every action can add value
  • Everyone is worth hearing
  • Everyone benefits from kindness

Get in touch to learn more: info@thewellbeingcollective.co.uk

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We have the power to enable positive change: World Mental Health Day 2019

Maybe on World Mental Health Day it’s time to stop bookending our working week with the language of Monday Morning Blues and Thank God it’s Friday. Instead we could start celebrating.png

World Mental Health Day and Workplace Wellbeing

For some, the pressures of work can be overwhelming and cause real and lasting misery. We also know from the evidence of two decades of vocational advice services that employment can be good for our mental health. Returning to work after a spell off with mental health issues, managed well, has clear mental health benefits. There are employers out there whose staff enjoy coming into work, feel emotionally supported while they’re there, know their issues will be taken seriously, and perform brilliantly. At TWBC we work with some of them.

Maybe on World Mental Health Day it’s time to stop bookending our working week with the language of ‘Monday Morning Blues’ and ‘Thank God it’s Friday’. Instead we could start celebrating all those workplaces where people recognise and talk openly about their mental health, listen with care and attention, and look after themselves and each other.

Some of the work we carry out in TWBC is explicitly about workplace wellbeing, e.g. looking after ourselves and looking after each other workshops. But you could make the case that everything we offer touches on mental health and wellbeing. Our coaching, reflective practice and leadership workshops ask people to draw deeply on their emotional responses to the challenges they face. And people really value the offer of “restorative headspace”, where staff who have been through the most stressful of times have the chance to open up in confidence.

For more information please do not hesitate to contact us directly at info@thewellbeingcollective.co.uk

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Imposter Syndrome

Feelings are not facts...

During October 2019, as part of #worldmentalhealthday, TWBC will be releasing a series of blogs focussed on mental health including personal stories, toolkits, tips and links regarding mental health in the workplace.

Our first post this month is a personal story from our CEO, Amy, on the topic of ‘imposter syndrome’…


Have you ever doubted your achievements, putting them down to luck, timing or the efforts of other people, rather than believing they are really due to your own skills, abilities and effort?

You may be aware that in its most persistent form this is called ‘Imposter Syndrome’ – this is when we find it hard to internalise our own accomplishments and have an ongoing fear of being considered a ‘fraud’ or imposter.

These feelings are rarely to do with actual ability or credibility and are usually associated with feelings of perfectionism, overworking, and a fear of failure; as a result, praise is discounted and one’s own achievements undermined.

I have a personal history of doubting my abilities and in the past, have spent years covering this up rather than helping myself to change my ‘crooked thinking’.  I believed I had managed this pretty well until one day, when I was in a very senior position, someone accused me of a serious irregularity in my work. Although the allegation was untrue and I was cleared of any wrongdoing, the impact on my mental health was devastating.

Initially when the accusation was made I was unable to manage the terror that somehow, I would be found out, that everything I had ever done in the pursuit of serving others would be exposed as untrue too. All those years of telling myself that I was an imposter and that I wasn’t worthy of my achievements left me ill-equipped to deal with this difficult situation. I believe now, on reflection, that my extreme reaction to the scenario was triggered in part by an underlying fear of lacking confidence in my own ability and skills.

The impact of this situation led me to set up The Wellbeing Collective and to forge a different path for myself and my family. Five years on and I have learned some very big lessons:

  • I am not an imposter; its ok to have self-doubts and to act with humility as long as it doesn’t paralyse me. Reflecting on situations individually or with people I trust helps me grow in self-awareness.
  • ‘Feelings are not facts’. A shift from thinking that my achievements are down to other people or plain luck to believing that I do achieve things through my own abilities, and I often do this with others and by making the best of opportunities.
  • By noticing and celebrating the achievements of others I have found it easier to acknowledge that I achieve things worthy of recognition as well. Recognising my achievements is still a work in progress.
  • By being open about significant experiences and the impact it has had on my life I have discovered that many of us have inner feelings or thoughts associated with Imposter Syndrome. Through conversations with people I have realised that not being alone in these self-limiting beliefs is liberating.

 

If you have found this blog of interest, please feel free to contact me directly at: amy@thewellbeingcollective.co.uk 

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What is the process of looking for inspiration…

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“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them”. Albert Einstein. 

 

When I ‘draw a creative blank’, I find it can be helpful to take a moment or two to try and think differently. I start by thinking about the process of what I am trying to achieve – how am I actually trying to achieve this task? Is there a different way I could be doing it?

In my day to day work with various teams, I find all too often there is a clear emphasis on thinking about the team’s task, with an almost complete exclusion of thinking about the process by which they complete the task.

There is growing evidence that teams who look at how they do things, alongside what they do, are more likely to be effective and high performing. The process of ‘thinking differently’ could help teams and individuals find a more constructive way forward and in doing so, unlock the solutions to their problems.

So when you are ‘drawing a blank’, take a moment to think about how you are approaching the task, not just what you are doing, and whether there might be an even better way to do it. You never know, it could unleash a new creative energy in you!

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Is your work environment a healthy one?

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Today we aren’t focussing on the typical aspects you would associate with ‘work environment’ but rather your surroundings. When did you last stop and take a second to think about how much your work environment makes a difference to your mental state and wellbeing?

For me today, and I’m sure for many of you out there, various events outside of work had caught up with me. Driving to work this morning, I was incredibly stressed, feeling overwhelmed and tired. However, when I pulled up outside our office, situated in the New Forest, Hampshire, I immediately felt a sense of peace. A dozen horses or so made me stop my car as they strolled in a line across the road, calmly, slowly, gracefully. It forced me to stop, to take in my surroundings, to breathe.

When I got into the office, I happened to glance out the window onto the farm and see a group of jet black kittens and piglets. I was so excited as the piglets on the farm here are a sign Autumn is beginning, my favourite season – hello comfy oversized jumpers 😉 I stopped for a moment, watching them play and wag their tails. It made me realise the importance of my working environment, how lucky I am to work somewhere where I am surrounded by nature, somewhere I feel safe, welcomed, loved. It’s not only possible but also acceptable for me to step away from my computer, to take 5 minutes out, to re-set. Such a small gesture but an incredibly powerful one.

Culture plays a massive part in assuring your staffs morale, but so does their desk, their window, their drive in… What bits do you love about your commute and office space? What things could you do to improve the space so you feel ready to start the day in a positive way? We would love to hear from you…

Becca x

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TWBC – ‘We amplify quiet voices’, let us amplify yours!

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By amplifying quiet voices, you can reduce damaging myths and assumptions in your organisation…

TWBC prides itself on teaching, modelling and living by its values. Our focus today is on ‘We Amplify Quiet Voices’ and the following case study demonstrates how by actively ensuring these quiet voices are amplified, you can reduce or even eliminate myths and assumptions which can negatively impact morale, performance and resilience if left unchecked.

Case Study

Recently, I spent half a day with team of Administrators, who provide support to a public sector Leadership Team. They had not had any team development time for 4+years and most of the individuals had not had any facilitated away time.

By exploring their role and its impact on the Leadership Team, staff, stakeholders and service users, it became very clear their work had a tangible impact on the Organisation as a whole. In order to achieve success, the team members required skills in engagement and emotional literacy.

As the front face of the Organisation their behaviour is on view on a daily basis, however, they received infrequent 1:1 time with line managers, limited support and almost no development opportunities. The results of this were far reaching, impacting their performance, resilience and morale – believing the Leadership Team viewed them as competent but quarrelsome.

How many of us would make assumptions about this team, or one we can relate to in your own organisation?! ‘I bet they have poor relationships with the senior team they support’, or, ‘they must work in a culturally toxic organisation’, or maybe even that ‘they must be unusual in finding themselves isolated and unheard’?

The truth is very different! In this case study example;

  • Each Administrative Assistant has a good working relationship with the senior leader they support,
  • The organisation is forward thinking and working systematically on creating a just and learning culture.

This team of Administrators are not alone, in our experience, there are pockets of teams in every organisation who are unheard, unsung and only come to light when something starts to go awry.

So, if this is the case, why are such important teams often overlooked? The team in this case study believe that it is due to inconsistent line management, that their senior team are too busy and because there are myths and assumptions made about the team’s capability, experience and self-sufficiency.

In just one of our facilitated workshop sessions:

  • The team gained a much deeper understanding of what is working well currently,
  • What could be better,
  • What the root causes of the current situation might be,
  • What needs to change at a root level to deliver concrete change,
  • and finally, how the changes could impact the team’s behaviour, productivity, morale and overall sense of achievement.

I was extremely proud to help them with this task, and I am very excited to see how they take this work forward. By the next session they will be in a position of enhancing the clarity of their roles, receiving collaborative leadership from their organisation and be provided with consistent development opportunities in the future.

TWBC – ‘We amplify quiet voices’, let us amplify yours!

 

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Maybe it’s time to stop kidding ourselves that we’re proficient multi-taskers and keep focused on what we really want to achieve…

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15 minutes, what can you do in 15 minutes? You can achieve more than you think if you give yourself the chance. Sounds simple doesn’t it? But it can be surprisingly difficult to focus exclusively on one task without getting distracted by the endless, competing calls upon your attention – email, social media, 24/7 news…

The impact of this distraction is twofold. Firstly, the task itself takes longer. Secondly, it takes time and neurons to refocus once distracted from a task.

University of Minnesota business professor Sophie Leroy describes the “attention residue” that happens every time the brain has to shift its attention from one task to another. Part of your brain is left processing the first task as you switch to something different. Then more brain power is needed to fully refocus on what it was you were doing in the first place.

The result of this can be that the time you allotted to complete that report, or to plan that session, has slipped through your fingers like fine sand without you even realising it.

The solution for me came in the form of an unusual birthday present which, ironically involved grains of sand … a rather aesthetically pleasing egg timer that counts 15 minutes at a time.  The idea is that you make a conscious choice how you want to use the 15 minutes in a way that is deliberate and mindful.  The presence of this sleek glass egg timer has been quietly revelational. It sits by my laptop and, at moments when I can feel the familiar impulse to shift focus to some other activity, prompts me to pause and take stock. What has struck me is exactly how much can be achieved in 15 minutes if you are truly focused on the task at hand.

Maybe it’s time to stop kidding ourselves that we’re proficient multi-taskers and keep focused on what we really want to achieve… 15 minutes at a time.

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