What will you choose? Reflecting on strong emotions.


I am sat here on my garden bench taking a short lunch break, sun shining,  coffee in hand and reflecting on what I need to do this afternoon for work and this evening for home.

From almost no where find myself smiling in a moment of feeling properly happy, but as quickly as that feeling arrives it is overshadowed by a thought….. how can you feel Ok when its clearly just not ok for so many people right now?… people without  gardens, exhausted key workers, overwhelmed NHS colleagues, the people feeling lonely and all those devastated by Covid 19.

In that second, the thought turns into a strong set of feelings;  sadness, guilt and helplessness.

This is where I have a choice and deep down I know it…. I can….either…

Absorb those emotions, allow myself to be drowned by them and work extra hard without decent breaks or looking up at the sunshine…in order to make up for the fact that I am ok and my world is less difficult than others right now, believing that the only way to make amends is to make things harder for myself too….


Allow those emotions to sit with me momentarily, particularly the sense of empathy and then turn any feelings of guilt into gratitude for what I have and think about how I will make the most of that and turn the helplessness into focus, making my day useful, productive reflecting my own wellbeing needs and the needs of those around me.

It’s not every time that I choose wisely when I get flooded with harsh emotions… however I do seem to always have an endless number of opportunities to choose the right options and often I do.

Amy, The Wellbeing Collective

You are making a difference.

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Our fourth week of strict social distancing and I don’t know about you but I personally needed the Easter break we just had. The intense emotional, physical and mental feelings were becoming a little overwhelming. Should I be doing more? Can I do more? Do I even want to do be doing any more than just following guidelines?

But then I remembered the following and I wanted to share it – as I hope it may help one of you reading it.

It doesn’t matter what role you have, or what your situation is. If you are a key worker, a parent juggling work and childcare, home alone – all of us, together, are making a difference. You are making a difference.

TWBC has a core value, ‘Every conversation counts, every action adds value’. This really resonated with me this week.

Stay safe. Stay home. We are in this together.

#lockdown #isolation #UK #everyconversationcounts #everyactionaddvalue #stayhome #protectthenhs #staysafe #together #youareenough #youaremakingadifference

‘There is some hugely creative and adaptive work happening that I think we can learn from now, not just when CV-19 is over.’

Nick's blogHere at The Wellbeing Collective we are hearing from many NHS staff sharing their experiences of working day to day in an unprecedented way, doing unexpected things and making decisions at pace. In the midst of this is a strong and collective sense of team determination and camaraderie, but also palpable strong emotions as we anticipate what lies ahead of us.

As a Wellbeing Collective Consultant and also an NHS Manager, one of our team members wrote a really moving piece [not for a blog, just in an update], and we asked his permission if we could share some of his words:

‘Obviously work is busy, the call to action though is very impressive and humbling.  More impressive is that pace at which things are getting done and relationships are changing, and I think despite the difficulties ahead, there are going to be a raft of things that change during this process that will make the NHS a more efficient organisation, albeit one with a lot more grief to process.

One of the things I’ve been thinking about and working on in my NHS role, is how we can learn when we are working at this sort of pace, so not just the coping part, but include break points to pause our key decision making structures, quickly look back, and take that learning into the next phase of decision making.  There is some hugely creative and adaptive work happening that I think we can learn from now, not just when it’s over.’


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Lockdown Wellbeing, the Five C’s: Contracting, Communicating, Carving, Commuting, Cutting…

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One of the unexpected and heart-warming things to come out of our current situation, is the contact I seem to have had with such a range of people. People I haven’t seen in contact with for years, sometimes decades are back in my life, albeit virtually.

I also seem to be having a lifetimes worth of conversations with people who are more regularly in my life, and we all seem to have slipped easily into a routine of using technology to aid our communication.

In my work over the last few weeks, I have had many conversations with people who, like me, are spending hours and hours every day in virtual meetings. Although they are productive, helpful, and in no way comparable to the challenges faced by our colleagues on the front line, they are draining and sometimes overwhelming.

One of the joys of being part of The Wellbeing Collective is hearing the ways in which people enhance their lives. Here are five of the things that have really inspired me to maintain balance and work on my own wellbeing, as well as the wellbeing of others.

  1. Contracting – Basically means having a focussed conversation with those you live with, about how you are going to live well together during this time by sharing roles and responsibilities.
  2. Communicating how you feel – This seems obvious but it can be over looked when trying to keep a “stiff upper lip”.
  3. Carving out time – This is about time for you, time doing hobbies, things you like to do that may not be useful or worthy but give you pleasure and a dopamine hit.
  4. Commuting – Add in a walk around the block or even in your garden before starting work for the day, punctuate the start and end of your day with fresh air.
  5. Cutting off – It might be that you need a technology detox and choose to turn off gadgets for a few hours, every so often, to recharge your own batteries.


It would be great if you could share some of your tips for thriving in these unprecedented times.

Best wishes,

Amy, The Wellbeing Collective


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The importance of connections with people – and how to have them when you can’t physically be in the same space.

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Throughout life, we have probably all taken for granted the ease with which we can see people, or see the people we want to see, when we want to see them. Now, we find ourselves in a time where that isn’t as straightforward. So, TWBC thought it might be helpful to share a few tips we are using to help us personally during this time.

Take a moment to think about what it is that you value about your connections with people. Are there other ways we can keep in touch?

One of the advantages of lockdown and staying at home, is that we can make contact with people who we haven’t been in touch with for some time – somehow there are more periods of the day to make that quick phone call for example. There are platforms, some we used before and others new, that enable us to speak to more than one person at a time, hearing their voice, seeing their faces. After these moments, when you do connect with that person/s whom you haven’t connected with for some time, take a moment to reflect, to value, and appreciate that connection.

There are now several community contacts and networks set up that are either new or have a lot of new members – could you offer support with this in order to connect? Or are you in need of support yourself, would you consider joining one? By valuing the contacts we make, we can appreciate some of the positives that this situation brings.

What have you learnt about keeping in touch with people? How has it changed for you over the last few weeks? What would you like to keep for the future? We would love to hear your ideas and how you have kept in touch. What have you found helpful that others may also find useful?

TWBC would like to end today’s blog on a little taskette – perhaps you could send a message to 1 or 2 contacts, every day for the rest of the week, that you haven’t spoken to in a while. See how they are, let them know how you are. Value that connection.

The Wellbeing Collective x


#wellbeing #mentalhealth #isolation #anxiety #communication #conversations #lockdown #coaching #coach #connections

Your Wellbeing plan – what are the things you can do each day and each week that keep you in a good place? Our CALM model may help.


If we have an approach to looking after our wellbeing, we are more likely to do it. So TWBC would like to give you a few pointers on things that you might consider when putting together your own wellbeing plan.

We have developed a CALM model: Connected, Active, Learning, Mindfulness, to help with the planning process.

How do you connect with others? What ways could you actively meet your needs? How could you learn from your thoughts and feelings? How will you mindfully ground yourself?

Once you have identified things that help boost your wellbeing, what are the realistic things you can do each day and week to implement those boosts? They don’t have to be big things. It is better you have a few small things you can commit to do, than one bigger thing that you may forget about or not do. You could set a timer on your phone to remind you to do something.

A timer once a week may also help in making you stop and think, to have a mindful moment about what difference this process is making for you, and are there any things you would change or add to.

Have a think about the approaches you take now in managing your wellbeing. Once the world returns to some resemblance of normality, think about the things you want to keep doing.

We would love to hear how you get on and what you may be doing to help with your wellbeing?

Are there any ideas that you are happy to share with other people?

The Wellbeing Collective x

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Adapting for the here and now…

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A message from our CEO, Amy:


I wanted to tell you a bit about what The Wellbeing Collective have been working on over the last few weeks.

We are a small company and we concentrate on people development and staff wellbeing. With that in mind we have adapted what we do to create something that is relevant for the here and now for frontline staff.

Every day this week, we will be sharing a bit more info on offers we have produced, in order to support you on this tough and demanding journey.

Please get in reach out to us in any way you can, and start a conversation. We will be in touch again tomorrow.

Amy x

#stayhome #frontline #support #coaching #wellbeing #resilience #restorative #conversations #mondaymotivation #covid19 #coronovirus #lockdown #smallbusiness #coach #train #teach #UK

Wellbeing in this unprecedented time

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Message from Amy, CEO of The Wellbeing Collective.

I have sat here, wondering what and how I should write this blog. These are unprecedented times and I don’t know about you, but my brain is still trying to catch up with our current situation. I hope you are all safe and ok!

My world, as well as so many others has been turned upside down, however, I am determined to look on the bright side and to bring positivity, practicality and sensitive humour to the TWBC blogs. You will be seeing a lot more of me and my colleagues as we progress into our new way of working and I can’t wait to speak and interact with you all.

TWBC have been working very hard behind the scenes for a few months now on our own digital, personal mastery offer. Over the past week, we have adapted some of the content and format in order to meet your immediate wellbeing needs. We have produced a virtual  alternative for our coaching and development programmes, as well as four key new products , directed at those working on the frontline under immense pressure. Our values are especially critical now and staff wellbeing is our absolute priority.

You will see every Wednesday, free, 10 minute live videos, going over tools and techniques we that we teach, that may help anyone during this turbulent time.

Our offers for frontline staff can be found on all our digital platforms, as well as by contacting us at info@thewellbeingcollective.co.uk

Keep  safe, show kindness  and remember, we are all in this together and together we can accomplish anything.

#stayhome #stayhomesaveslives #staysafe #bekind #stayindoors #covid #digital #staypositive #wellbeing #mentalhealth #nhs #frontline

Swap Books, Swap Ideas: World Book Day 2020

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Happy World Book Day!

It’s safe to say that everyone at TWBC is a self-confessed book worm, and today is the perfect opportunity to share some of our favourites. In return we would love to hear what books you couldn’t do without in the workplace.


  • Peter Hawkins, ‘Leadership and Team Coaching’. It does what it says and applies the discipline of coaching to team dynamics. Great mixture of theory and practice.


  • David Rock, ‘Your Brain at Work’. David Rock manages to pull together the latest neuroscience research on the brain and use it to formulate models which I often use in training, particularly the SCARF model.


  • Richard Rohr, ‘Falling upwards’. One for any age, but particularly those in the second half of life. It’s super spiritual and has been transformational for me.


#worldbookday #book #reading #bookshare #bookswap #leadership #coaching #theory #practice #SCARFmodel #richardrohr #davidrock #peterhawkins #thursdayreads

“An equal world is an enabled world”

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Happy International Women’s Day!

The Wellbeing Collective is honoured to have a strong, empowering female CEO. Her exemplary vision and passion for delivering our core values to each and every person we meet is, as a young women writing this post myself, nothing other than inspirational.

At TWBC we believe in equality and celebrate diversity, whether that be gender, race, sexuality… Therefore, on this day, we are celebrating not only the incredible women we work with, and who work for us, but also the incredible men, together we are strong.


“An equal world is an enabled world”





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